Six Signs That It May Be Time to Consider a Divorce
Posted on: March 18, 2020
Most people who get married do so because they want to spend the rest of their lives together. Unfortunately, not all couples make it that far. There is something to be said for couples who are willing to fight together to make it work, but at some point many couples find that it is best to call it quits. Are you at that point yet? Only you and your spouse can know for sure but these are six signs that now may be the time to consider divorcing.
- You No Longer Communicate Well
- You Are No Longer Intimate with Your Spouse
- You Do Not Trust Each Other
- You Are Mad at Each Other All the Time
- Cheating
- Abuse
You are likely not surprised to learn that most couples who get divorce report that they were not communicating well in the months or years leading up to their divorce. Ideally, couples should work as a team and talk to each other when things are not going well. If they instead shut down or go to others to talk about what is wrong in their lives, this could be a sign that a divorce is on the horizon.
Intimacy is essential within a marriage. In fact, if you are not intimate with your spouse then what is the difference between your marriage and a close friendship? It is true that there are always ups and downs and lulls in most relationships, but if it has been so long since you were last intimate that you have lost track of how long it was, then this is likely a bad sign.
Ideally, you and your spouse would be best friends and would know that you could rely on each other. Unfortunately, it is all too common for a spouse to end up not trusting each other. There can be many reasons for this, from cheating to lying to hiding finances. When two people cannot trust each other, it is difficult to work on successful marriage and it may be a good time to get marriage counseling if not consider a divorce.
Boiling anger and contempt can kill a marriage quickly. This could be something as simple as resenting your partner or as serious as feeling as though you hate them. You may feel that as soon as they walk in the room, your mood sours. You may feel that they criticize every move you make or thing you say. No matter the reasons or the way it manifests, if your marriage is full of feelings of anger and contempt, you may want to consider divorce.
Some couples can work through infidelity but many do not. This can be a serious deal-breaker for many and can lead to many other issues, including not trusting your spouse, being mad at them, and not wanting to be intimate with them.
If your spouse is abusing you or your children then it is time to take action. It will not get easier to leave. You can talk to us at Law Office of Michael L. Fell confidentially about the options available for domestic violence victims. This includes temporary restraining orders and emergency child support and spousal support. Call immediately at (949) 585-9055 for help unless your life is in immediate risk – then call 9-1-1.
