Learn How to Handle Three Different Custody Situations During the Holidays

Posted on: December 20, 2019

Learn How to Handle Three Different Custody Situations During the Holidays

Figuring out how to move forward with your children after a divorce can be a challenge. This is especially true around the holidays. At Law Office of Michael L. Fell, we do not believe there is a one-size-fits-all answer to how to handle these situations. Instead, we have provided our best answers to three different situations.

  1. Handling the Holidays When You Get Along with Your Ex
  2. If you and your ex still get along and you are both single, then you may consider spending the holidays together with your children. If you have annual traditions like going to your sister’s house for Christmas Eve dinner, think about inviting your ex. If your ex does end up with the kids on a holiday, make sure you have alternate plans to avoid feeling sad and lonely.

  3. Handling the Holidays When You Don’t Get Along with Your Ex
  4. If you do not get along with your ex, then the key is sticking to any court orders relating to custody or visitation. Stick to your Parenting Plan, even if it is difficult. Help your child make a nice gift for your ex and do not have the expectation that your ex will do the same. This is a nice gesture that spreads choose cheer and is likely to make your child happy.

    If you must see your ex during the holidays, or their family, be nice and respectful. Family is important to your children – even when it is no longer your family. Remember that your child is innocent in this equation. They did not ask for the divorce and your job as a parent is to make it as easy as possible for them to move forward.

  5. Handling the Holidays When Your Ex is Not in Town for the Holidays
  6. If you and your previous-spouse do not live in the same state or town – or even the same country – then the holidays can be difficult. If you have the kids, encourage your child to call their other parent using FaceTime or Skype. Do what you can to make the holiday special for your kid and cook a meal or at least some cookies. Invite friends and family to make it a festive event.

If you have annual traditions around the holidays, do what you can to repeat them as a smaller family this year. If it is not possible to do so, look for ways to create new traditions. If you simply find it too painful to stay at home during the holidays, rent a cabin, go to a friend or family member’s house, or find another way to celebrate this year.

If you need help from an attorney to ensure that your custody arrangement deals with visitation correctly, contact Law Office of Michael L. Fell at (949) 585-9055 for a free legal consultation.