It is Never Your Fault: Get Compassionate Legal Help for Domestic Violence
Posted on: September 7, 2018
The unfortunate truth is that domestic violence happens every single day all across the country. What’s worse is that many victims begin to feel that it is their fault. They may look at the warning signs that they believe they should have seen, such as jealousy, name-calling, and possessiveness. They may believe they should have gotten out sooner.
The truth of the matter is that it is never the victim’s fault. Never. There is no circumstance in which a person who is abused should be blamed for their own abuse. We know that you may be facing not only personal worries but financial worries as well. If you were married to your abuser a family law attorney can help you get a temporary restraining order, temporary alimony, and otherwise help you get what you need to leave. Read on to learn more about the compassionate care we can offer and then contact our offices at Law Office of Michael L. Fell to get started.
It is normal to have a lot of conflicting feelings
From the outside, it may seem that a person who is being abused should feel just a few feelings: Anger and sadness. While these are normal feelings, there are many other feelings that are just as normal – and they can be confusing. For example, you may feel confused that someone you believed loved you would hurt you. You may feel ashamed or guilty. You may worry that no one is going to believe you. We believe you.
You may be worried about what the neighbors, your co-workers, and your family will say if they find out. You may be numb and hopeless. It is common for abusers to tell their victims that without them, they are not loveable and cannot survive. This is not true. There is hope and we can help you. You do not have to live like this.
A few facts about abusers
An abuser is likely to use many strategies to establish and maintain control over the person they are abusing. In some cases, the victim is never physically hurt. They may abused via other means. Others are hurt physically and then immediately assured that it will not happen again. The fact of the matter is that when a person physically harms their partner, it is extremely unlikely to be a onetime thing. It is very likely that will do it again.
It is also important to know that the abuser will likely not admit they are fault and that they may actually believe it. They may feel that the victim is at fault because they made them mad or did not act appropriately. These are excuses the abuser uses. They are not valid and they are not your fault. Now is the time to contact Law Office of Michael L. Fell at (949) 585-9055 for your free, confidential consultation.
